When journalist Steven Petrow turned 50, he began an unusual project. He started writing a list of mistakes his aging parents were making. He believed he would never repeat those same errors. Some items were lighthearted, like not coloring his hair anymore. Others were more substantial, like not limiting his friendships to people his age. The list grew longer each year as he observed his parents' generation.
Petrow first published his reflections in 2017, after his parents had passed away. That essay later became a book called Stupid Things I Won't Do When I Get Old. The book resonated with readers across generations who recognized familiar habits. He wrote about people who refuse hearing aids or insist on driving when it is unsafe. He also criticized the tendency to bore others with endless health complaints.
Now approaching 70, Petrow has gained a deeper perspective on his own list. He admits that he has struggled to follow some of his own pledges. For example, he once promised never to lie about his age. Yet he later confessed to changing his birth year on dating apps. He acknowledged that aging with integrity is much harder than simply writing about it. The observer had gradually become the subject of his own criticism.
Petrow's experience offers a powerful reminder that aging well requires ongoing effort. Author Chip Conley suggests finding someone who can hold you accountable for your goals. Making your commitments public can also create helpful pressure to follow through. If we reflected more honestly on our habits, we would likely discover areas that need improvement. Ultimately, getting older is a privilege, and we can approach it with grace and humor.