When Steven Petrow turned 50, he started a very personal project. He began writing a list of mistakes he saw his aging parents make. He watched them resist change and cling to stubbornness. He promised himself he would not repeat those same errors. Over the years, his list grew to more than 100 items.
Some items on the list were lighthearted, like not dyeing his hair. Others were more serious and had real substance. For example, he pledged not to keep driving when it became dangerous. He also promised he would not deny needing hearing aids. In 2017, after his parents had died, he published the list publicly.
Now, as Petrow approaches 70, he has become the same age his parents were. He admits that he has struggled to follow his own advice. He even confessed to lying about his age on dating apps. One of his firmest pledges was to always be honest about his age. Yet he found that aging with integrity is harder than just thinking about it.
Experts suggest finding an accountability partner who can help you stay honest. Author Chip Conley recommends having someone who gently reminds you of your values. Petrow's experience shows that aging well does not require perfection. It requires self-awareness and the humility to start again when you fall short.